Some reaction Wilson, here we go
Would you use a flash on your baby child? Probably in some circumstances, but you would take care of not using a high intensity one, and you would probably use bounced light and other methods to diffuse the strength and take care of the composition. Now, would you/others use the same care for a bird? May be a lot of photographers would not, when they don't have a long time to take a shot at a skittish bird. I would rather use a high ISO and have a blurry/grainy record shot than causing potential damage, as a rule of caution. Direct flashes can cause serious injuries to eyes, of birds as well as humans or other animals.
Now, what to do in cases where high ISO photography is impossible? I would prefer a (not too strong) torch light. Initially disturbing, the bird eyes can progressively adjust and don't suffer from sudden and unexpected strong flashes of light. However, it is not easy to know what disturbs a bird, so better in any case to minimize the number of pictures taken and too bad if the picture is not an award-winning one. It seems to me that 30 pictures with flash is a lot but if the birds were not disturbed and you were careful on the way the flash was used and directed, then I am not opposed to it.
In regards to the behavior of people, rushing for a bird in Long Valley or Po Toi, it's a bit easy to condemn them, but disturbed birds usually quickly leave the place. If they stay, it may be because they are sick or used to human presence (or human feeding). Hong Kong is mainly a place of migrants/vagrant birds. I don't think that the relatively low number of breeding or resident species in Hong Kong is due to photographers but land planning decisions (anti-conservation and pro-property developers). I doubt photography clicks would harm or disturb birds, and I have not seen a bird leave because of the clicks themselves, but I have seen a lot getting disturbed by the loud discussions of photographers/birders.